Annie Elainey
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WALKING away from a disabled parking space?
During a day of errands, I had to use my wheelchair to get around a shop. Following that, I had an appointment on the other side of the same shopping complex. So I drove across the parking lot to get closer.
Here’s the twist: at my subsequent appointment, I had this to consider: I’d be sitting the whole time, I parked very close, just a few feet from the door, and my body was stable enough where I could get inside without using my wheelchair.
I couldn’t help but feel anxious and ask myself:
1- Could I trust my body to successfully get me in there without a mobility aid?
2- Will the waiting room be empty with plenty of places to sit?
3- Would someone notice that I used a wheelchair earlier and walked into this appointment “just fine” now?
4-Would someone misunderstand my situation?
5-Would they question my need for a wheelchair?
6-Would they get confrontational about it?
It’s not fair that disabled people like myself have to fear harassment in this way. I want to shed light on a common misconception surrounding disabled parking spots. In this video, I delve into the reasons why someone might walk away from a disabled parking spot, highlighting the importance of understanding. Let’s challenge assumptions together and promote inclusivity! 🌍💙
[Video Description: Annie, with long black, wavy hair and glasses, wearing a black and white striped shirt, sits in the driver seat of her car talking to the camera]
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Відео

How ableism can make it hard to be visible as a disabled person
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Response to “Using my mobility aid takes so much courage. Just to comfortably navigate the world takes a lot of strength, both physically and mentally” on my most recent video where disabilities being represented in advertising was met with antagonism. [Video Description: in a bedroom, Annie, a fem presenting person with medium brown skin and long black wavy hair, wearing glasses and a grey tan...
When disability visibility is antagonized…
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It’s hard fighting internalized ableism when our exclusion is seen as the norm and there are so many people out there who would rather that not change, but damn, I hope you fight it! ❤️♿️ [Video Description: Annie, a Latina fem presenting person with long black wavy hair wears black cotton undergarments and sits in her wheelchair facing a mirror as a transparent clip of Candace Owens plays on t...
What is an ambulatory wheelchair user?
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Excerpt from my video “ambulatory wheelchair users exist” An ambulatory wheelchair user is someone who uses a wheelchair who has a limited (anywhere from just a single moment to longer periods of time) ability to walk among other physical capabilities but still needs their wheelchair for a variety of medical reasons.
Autism Q&A [CC]
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If you asked me an autism-related question last year after my coming out video, it may be in this video! Timestamps below for easier navigation! Resources and other links as well! Beneath it all are links to help support my content! Timestamps: Do you have autistic relatives? 1:27 What’s it like having an autistic sibling? Do you have better communication? 2:21 “Why do you call yourself autisti...
Cinderella Wheelchair Cover Set by Disguise!
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A quick video of my building my Cinderella Wheelchair Cover Set by Disguise! Thank you to shopDisney for sponsoring this video! #AD www.shopdisney.com/cinderellas-coach-wheelchair-cover-set-by-disguise-428421228917.html?CMP=KNC-DSSGoogle&efc=179006&gclid=Cj0KCQjwv7L6BRDxARIsAGj-34rxokHCy8Q3PI3EqVRrZfUuKPlzCO6OEr2prI9Z22RpQiDaSOYXKWwaAsX4EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds SUPPORT THIS CREATOR Patreon: www.pa...
I’m autistic [CC]
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This feels pretty vulnerable to talk about… This is something that is just simply a part of my life, where ableism/internalized ableism have left me with trauma to work through (and I AM working through it) and that I could've continued to keep private for just those closest to me to know.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣... (cont.) ⁣ What opening up about it now means for me is that I officially claim it, I have taken th...
Self-Care Tips For Your Brain #AtHome [CC]
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I have been at home and dealt with periods of isolation for a few years now as a chronically ill person and so I thought I'd share with you all the things that help me get by, be joyful, stay mentally healthy, and continue my personal growth. Check out a ton of info below! Nice things to do: Setting a mood; lighting, sounds, treats Musicals Horror movies (I’m a fan but definitely not for everyo...
The EDS Things You'd Miss Even If We Hang Out [CC]
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Here on the internet, there is a lot about the lives of chronically ill people that viewers don't know about, but today I wanted to talk about the things even the people around me miss, don't suspect about my experience with chronic illness because it rarely ever makes itself known on my face or visibly noticeable on my body. This is not even ALL of it but I wanted to share the EDS thing I feel...
Vulnerability Pt. 2: How do we conquer fear of vulnerability? Ft. Eveleena (Ivy Les Vixen) [CC]
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PART 2 of 2: In this video we move on from part 1 where we discuss what exactly is vulnerability and what makes us feel vulnerable, to explore some ways we might try to overcome our fears about vulnerability, being choosy with who we are vulnerable with, learning how to receive vulnerability from others, and how self-love and affirmations can help us to become our own safety net. Vulnerability ...
Vulnerability Pt. 1: What makes us vulnerable? Ft. Eveleena (Ivy Les Vixen) [CC]
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(PART 1 of 2) Eveleena (aka Ivy Les Vixens) stops by and chats with me on the topic of vulnerability; we talk about what exactly is vulnerability, what exactly makes someone vulnerable, do we feel vulnerable with the work that we do, how queerness and mental illness/trauma affect our vulnerabilities, emotional versus physical intimacy, and who deserves your vulnerability. Check out Vulnerabilit...
How We Decided It Was Time For a Wheelchair w/ ALS and EDS #AmbulatoryWheelchairUsersExist
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How We Decided It Was Time For a Wheelchair w/ ALS and EDS #AmbulatoryWheelchairUsersExist
Why We Use Power Wheelchairs w/ ALS and EDS #AmbulatoryWheelchairUsersExist
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Why We Use Power Wheelchairs w/ ALS and EDS #AmbulatoryWheelchairUsersExist
120 hours with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome
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120 hours with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome
Congenital Amputee Does My Makeup #GRWM ft. Stump Kitchen [CC]
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Congenital Amputee Does My Makeup #GRWM ft. Stump Kitchen [CC]
Straw Bans Are DANGEROUS For Disabled People [CC]
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Straw Bans Are DANGEROUS For Disabled People [CC]
Reacting to "Lazy" Product Ad Comments [CC]
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Reacting to "Lazy" Product Ad Comments [CC]
How Hatred For Laziness Impacts Disabled People [CC]
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How Hatred For Laziness Impacts Disabled People [CC]
Parking Lot Accessibility (USA) [CC]
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Parking Lot Accessibility (USA) [CC]
Ambulatory Wheelchair Users Exist [CC]
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Ambulatory Wheelchair Users Exist [CC]
Happier in the middle | 2018 in Review [CC]
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Happier in the middle | 2018 in Review [CC]
Navigating Disability Fashion and Gender Presentation [CC]
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Navigating Disability Fashion and Gender Presentation [CC]
Gender Expression and Disability ft. Jessica Kellgren-Fozard [CC]
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Gender Expression and Disability ft. Jessica Kellgren-Fozard [CC]
VidCon 2018 - Gender, Chronic Illness, Disability [CC]
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VidCon 2018 - Gender, Chronic Illness, Disability [CC]
Drag King Make-Over with Andro Gin [CC]
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Drag King Make-Over with Andro Gin [CC]
Pride Rewind Tag [CC]
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Pride Rewind Tag [CC]
Disability Misconceptions Tag (EDS) [CC]
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Disability Misconceptions Tag (EDS) [CC]
I have cognitive dysfunction (Brain Fog) [CC]
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I have cognitive dysfunction (Brain Fog) [CC]
What does it mean to "overcome disability"? [CC]
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What does it mean to "overcome disability"? [CC]
HOLD: Honoring Our Loves Departed [CC]
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HOLD: Honoring Our Loves Departed [CC]

КОМЕНТАРІ

  • @marybethmacnulty3500
    @marybethmacnulty3500 День тому

    ❤Thank you

  • @animemanXLK
    @animemanXLK 2 дні тому

    If we really wanna stop offending people we should all just stop talking altogether.

  • @John-gu4zn
    @John-gu4zn 9 днів тому

    I've been on a mission to file a complaint about serious sexual abuse on youtybe advertising in which at the end of the video, there was explicit pornography and I mean explicit! Personally, I can only hope to get youtube executives to resolve this and not the U.S.Attorney Generals Office or other Congressional Body. This is only an extreme example of corruption of the minds of children that must stop!!!

  • @mzlww
    @mzlww 13 днів тому

    Not me, looking this up after coming to the same realization and having you take the words out of my mouth. Could drs BE anymore disorganized???

  • @v4mpire_doll
    @v4mpire_doll 14 днів тому

    I love your content so much! Keep up the great work! <3

  • @scott111566
    @scott111566 22 дні тому

    I was very moved by your story and wanted to interview you on my podcast. Thanks!

  • @holisticliberty7430
    @holisticliberty7430 27 днів тому

    I have canes, crutches, Rollator/Transfer chair. Manual Wheelchair & Recently I got an electric wheelchair. I don’t have the same condition you have. I do have several chronic pain conditions, including fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis all over my body, sciatica on both sides, sacroiliac, plantar fibroma in both feet and tendonitis on both knees, that’s just what I can think of on the top of my head. Thank you for your openness, it does help to know I’m not alone.

  • @Ryndragon778
    @Ryndragon778 Місяць тому

    I’m not reading a bunch of these comments considering some of the ones I have read are genuinely awful takes. Thank you for this video. I definitely have experience with the misuse of disability terms. My sisters were calling something delusional and when I asked them what they meant, they said that delusional just means being a little zany or silly. I tried to tell them that’s not what it means and was shut down. I am not currently diagnosed with any kind of psychotic disorder. I am in the process of seeking a diagnosis. But I do experience intense paranoia and the feeling that people are out to get me. I hear voices that others don’t. I won’t say my life is miserable. I’m not miserable. But my life isn’t a cakewalk either. I decided then and there that if I was diagnosed with a delusional disorder, I wouldn’t tell my sisters. I wouldn’t tell my own family. They wouldn’t understand the gravity of that statement. What it actually means beyond quirky memes. There’s also the fact that my family refers to bigoted politicians as “delusional” or “literally living in a different reality”. Bigots aren’t bigots because they have a mental illness. They’re bigots because of their own stereotypes, their own assumptions. Not because of any “delusions”.

  • @brownbri1983
    @brownbri1983 Місяць тому

    The job requires able,to,lift 50lbs. Obciously its wrong,to,discriminate against someone who cant lift 50lbs

  • @kjchicago1
    @kjchicago1 Місяць тому

    Hope you feel better and can walk again-Hope your foot heals

  • @Volundur9567
    @Volundur9567 Місяць тому

    You can't.

  • @mimibelta259
    @mimibelta259 Місяць тому

    It’s not the bans that caused the problem it’s the fact that the plastic straws have micro plastics and they are a danger to everyone’s health

  • @theroyalone7588
    @theroyalone7588 Місяць тому

    Is Eds tha same heds?

  • @Sophine
    @Sophine Місяць тому

    I got GBS years ago then developed POEMS syndrome three years after. I was called lazy. It was interesting to see my mother's face when the doctors told her "she isn't lazy, the cancer took the ability for her nerves and muscles to work. The nerve conduction tests show she can be tased right now and just lay there looking at you" which is exactly what I did. I've gotten a decent amount of function back four years after treatment but I still cant do everything. But it took this long to be able to hold a bottle of water and sit up in my wheelchair. I attempt walking around my room and sitting at the piano trying to get my fingers to tap the keys. And I'm not there yet but it's fine. Just like you, I'm pushing myself all the time. I got things to do and places to go. You aren't lazy. I'm not lazy. Hell if anything I'm still pissed because I went from someone living her life dancing, running down jail halls to stop inmate fights, going to nursing school, making crafts, driving, going overseas on holiday.... To not being able to make my bed, open a water bottle, sit up and eat at the table in less than two months.

  • @jecj2024
    @jecj2024 Місяць тому

    I think she has a mental disability 😅😅

    • @ethics3
      @ethics3 Місяць тому

      I wholeheartedly AGREE .

  • @sueallen952
    @sueallen952 Місяць тому

    I had a bunion op 2 yrs ago and a week later a biopsy on the bottom of the same foot, wasnt given a cast but heavily bandaged, crutches and a boot. Had to walk on it from day one and I live alone and have know family so had to cope on my own, have to have the same op on the other foot this year, same situation!!!

  • @faithfulhill3769
    @faithfulhill3769 Місяць тому

    I was abused verbally my whole childhood by my father for an invisible illness he gave to me. I hate the term lazy and i try not to hate anything. I’m not lazy for caring for myself.

  • @emonighteverything4827
    @emonighteverything4827 Місяць тому

    Oh I remember a story where an old lady took a piece of paper and wrote faker on it and put it on someone's car. Wanna know the twist. The person who owned said car made a tiktok where she listed many things that impacted her quality of life and the main one I can remember is that they only had 1 lung.

  • @pnilsestuen5055
    @pnilsestuen5055 Місяць тому

    I am struck by how similar my dilapidation has been: Plantar Fasciitis that resists conservative treatment, followed by lower back pain and dysautonomia. This video has helped because I've been getting nowhere in primary care, and I need to advocate for a referral to a specialist.

  • @cassandrawest1784
    @cassandrawest1784 2 місяці тому

    I have autism and mild intellectual disability people think I am too pretty to be disabled or just being lazy or entitled . I get harassed by family members who think I am just making excuses grrr. So frustrating

  • @disableddisneymom3604
    @disableddisneymom3604 2 місяці тому

    Hello! I am a disabled UA-camr (just starting out…) but I’m here, trying it is hard for me as I have had two strokes have SLE lupus fibromyalgia and a lot of other health issues but I’m trying! 😊

  • @mariajosedelacruzmontero1108
    @mariajosedelacruzmontero1108 2 місяці тому

    I really thought I was the only one, and yes, I use all aids: cane, walker and wheelchair, but it’s hard, since “I don’t look disabled”. I feel the planet pulling me down and the pain makes it even harder to breathe. I am afraid of leaving my home. This video was really helpful. Thank you.❤

  • @laco403
    @laco403 2 місяці тому

    I'm partially paralyzed. I have *some* feeling and control over my legs. I can walk short distances. I can walk about half a mile at most using a walker, and a city block at most using nothing but my legs. I had a spinal cord inquiry, but didn't disrupt ALL the connection in my spine. When I don't have a wheelchair, I feel like there's an invisible force field around me. I can only go a block in each direction. Who can live like that? No strolls (or rolls) through the park, no going out with friends, no visiting family. I love to go out and explore. I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user.

  • @theo._1522
    @theo._1522 2 місяці тому

    love this!

  • @1973betti
    @1973betti 2 місяці тому

    numai cei care sint in situatia asta pot sa inteleaga si stiu cum e,cei sanatosi nu au cum sa stie cum e si sa se puna in locul tau sa poata sa-ti inteleaga situatia si boala ( only those who are in this situation can understand and know what it's like, healthy people have no way to know what it's like and put themselves in your place to be able to understand your situation and your illness )

  • @marie_eva
    @marie_eva 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for making this video!! I have a placard because eds and pots make me unable to walk for long distances (i don't use a wheelchair... probably "yet"). But I've always seen other disabled people leave their carts in the middle between-cars wheelchair access lane. I thought this made sense, because the cart putaway spot is far to walk to, so I followed. I'm so sorry that I've done that for the past few months! I wish they were marked. Where I live, they don't even have the lines so being an empty space, I thought that was correct. But now I know! Thanks again! I don't wanna be a jerk!

  • @natalierochon
    @natalierochon 2 місяці тому

    i'm so sick of people being so judgmental of people with disabilities, i wish the judging and gossip would stop and we can just accept each other for who we are

  • @Smudge7Four
    @Smudge7Four 2 місяці тому

    As a teacher, I typically use person-first language to be respectful, but always try to ask what language the person prefers so I can address and talk to them correctly. I plan to be a special education teacher, so this was informative to hear. Thanks for some good insight.

  • @freesoul3371
    @freesoul3371 3 місяці тому

    Quit crying and whining about every little thing.

  • @Chiller-pc1dv
    @Chiller-pc1dv 4 місяці тому

    Someone called me a faker of disability, because I was standing in some of my videos.

  • @annberlin5811
    @annberlin5811 4 місяці тому

    It could be celiac

  • @squiggly7
    @squiggly7 4 місяці тому

    I’m going to disagree; I don’t think you can assume that someone is judging you negatively just by looking at you. You make everything very us vs. them, but you make just as many assumptions as the people you are in turn objectifying. I think some of this is your perception only based on some negative experiences certainly. Don’t let it poison your thoughts. Your message becomes a very negative one.

  • @maxlopez6423
    @maxlopez6423 4 місяці тому

    This is the most shocking situation for me

  • @SnowySpiritRuby
    @SnowySpiritRuby 4 місяці тому

    The only time anyone made a negative comment on my parking in a handicapped spot (my chair is my only mobility aid, and I wasn't using it that day), I didn't actually catch what he said - something about forgetting crutches, but that was all I heard - and I didn't even realize that he had been talking to me until several hours later, which made me even more surprised, because I know his older sister, and she has invisible disabilities that affect her mobility, so once I realized that I was the one he had made that comment to, I couldn't figure out why he even made it in the first place. I've never had anyone actually challenge me on it, but I have a couple different responses prepared in case anyone does: "You're not my doctor" (this one I can use for just about anything, not just parking) and "I don't care, call the police if you want - they'll look it up and tell you it's valid" (I have handicapped plates on my pickup truck). For reference, this is in an area (not sure if it's just county or wider) where there's a $750 fine for parking illegally in one, so a deterrent in and of itself. I had a first happen a week ago, though - I went out to dinner with my best friend, and the place we went was one of those places where they put the food together as you tell them what things you want in it (like at Subway, but it was an Italian place). I've been out to eat in my wheelchair with friends and family many times in the past at all sorts of restaurants, but this was the first time that one of the employees asked the person with me, instead of me, what I wanted in mine - I very clearly told him that the one he was asking about was mine, not hers, so hopefully he got the message that just because I might be in a wheelchair at the moment doesn't necessarily mean I'm not capable of ordering my own food: I had been placing my own order up till that point, and he was the one who'd been taking it, so I couldn't figure out why he all of a sudden thought I couldn't order for myself. I know this is something that is all too common among this community, but it was a first for me (the end of July marks 6 years of me utilizing a wheelchair part time).

  • @jes3927
    @jes3927 4 місяці тому

    Ironically, this "casual openness" about disabled conditions has somehow made it easier for me to address these in normal, everyday conversations amongst peers and friends, as these issues are normally seem as taboo to discuss about in my country/culture lol. Thank you for this video, Annie.

  • @streaming5332
    @streaming5332 4 місяці тому

    Depends on the circumstances. People with MS are a nightmare and users. They use their disabilty to get sympathy, money, they'll suck the life out of you.

  • @crunchycookie06
    @crunchycookie06 4 місяці тому

    Candace Owens, is a despicable human being.

  • @bonnieross9334
    @bonnieross9334 4 місяці тому

    As someone with multiple disabilities, I often use humour in relation to my own disabilities, as I find it more positive than being all serious and depressed about it. Is this wrong and/or demeaning?

  • @My_klei
    @My_klei 4 місяці тому

    Thank you

  • @010101Be
    @010101Be 4 місяці тому

    Omg. You totally need my cane! It flips open to a seat to lean into to take the pressure off whenever I need to stand longer. Otherwise, before I had this, i would often sit on the floor/ground wherever I happen to be. Then folks come asking if they need to Call ☎️ someone, like ambulance. 😂 It is from Comoy’s of London. Ordered online. Leather sling seat is comfy. It is my favorite!

  • @denisewhalen8932
    @denisewhalen8932 5 місяців тому

    Thank you. It's very reassuring to see a young person speaking out. I have Ehlers and I am 59. Each year my world becomes smaller because of my body. I was diagnosed by accident when my son was referred to a geneticist. My son has Ehlers, Autism and ADHD. He was 21and I was 47 when we learned about Ehlers. I began struggling when I became pregnant and my hips kept dislocating. After my son was born I rolled over in bed and dislocated 2 vertebrae between my shoulders. My son and I have been put through hell because of this "your lazy" attitude. We were at a mall and use the mall scooters and I had to take the employee to task because my son doesn't look disabled. He was called "lazy". My own mother just a few years ago called me fat and lazy because I used a walker and scooter. Keep up the great job of bringing these antiquated preconceived attitudes towards disabled individuals. Your voice is strong and it helps to know that you will speak the truth.

  • @mikegrok
    @mikegrok 5 місяців тому

    My wife is a quadruple amputee. She can walk, but after 80 feet without something to lean on she needs to get off of her legs. She uses a power wheelchair when out and about. If there is not a chair nearby she will sit on the ground. But once down she can’t get back up without something to lean on, or assistance. Ie her wheelchair. For her it is easy to show her legs are prosthetics, but many people lack that obvious physical difference.

  • @BuffiOmega
    @BuffiOmega 5 місяців тому

  • @user-pz3if4pf2y
    @user-pz3if4pf2y 5 місяців тому

    What kind of shoes are those?

  • @darthapple87
    @darthapple87 5 місяців тому

    As someone living in a tiny apartment with no room for a stool in the kitchen, the egg cracker would make eggs more accessible for me since I'm on forearm crutches. Currently, I put down one crutch, meaning I sacrifice some balance (balance issues and vertigo are what I was prescribed crutches for). Then I do my best to crack an egg one-handed. I have really small hands, so it's a challenge for me. That egg cracking tool would definitely make it more accessible for me.

  • @HughMorristheJoker
    @HughMorristheJoker 5 місяців тому

    Probably cause it's negative

  • @ghostlylover99123
    @ghostlylover99123 5 місяців тому

    Because disabilities is the only white privilege card, lol, but anyway, way too many poc people don't like to speak about it much.?

  • @calistafalcontail
    @calistafalcontail 5 місяців тому

    You look like a walking talking stereotype....damn.

  • @robertgeorgie6532
    @robertgeorgie6532 5 місяців тому

    I feel seen!

  • @GAINZonWHEELS
    @GAINZonWHEELS 6 місяців тому

    Britney (empowered Para) the best, she learned beginners very well… I love much to see the movies, I’m a year paralysed..